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It’s Only Logical- How Our Family is Grieving The Loss of a Hero who was Leonard Nimoy

My 14 yo daughter was born to a diehard trekkie Dad and a newly formed star trek fan Mom. She was indoctrinated into geekdom from the start. Some kids go against what their parents like but not her. She LOVES Star Trek!


At fan Expo 2012

Being ADHD,having anxiety now and pervasive development delays enough to be considered ASD early on, she is a very logical and science minded kid.

She's smart and talented in drawing and writing fiction and even with her delays in her first 5 years (from being born at 34 weeks) in crawling, walking and speech etc., she could read at 3 only weeks after she finally started speaking in full sentences rather than pointing and single words like wa-er for water.

She has grown up on Star trek. As many logical minded people on the Autism Spectrum do, she connected with characters like Data, Seven and Odo. But she has only known Spock for the last few years, and he became a favourite as well.

In 2013-2014 we watched the whole TOS series with her and our son since he was finally old enough to understand it and remember it. We watched two episodes almost every weeknight for family time.(we don't have cable)

She loved Spock. His logic. His science mind, and his ability to show he cared and loved his friends and crew members and captain even, while not showing much emotion. At times she would exclaim at the screen "COME ON Spock! Show your feelings! You know you want to!"

Star Trek mom

On Friday morning I woke up and was clearing twitter replies from my phone and saw the tweet.

Leonard Nimoy was gone.

We had been talking about him since Wednesday when we had heard he was in the hospital recently, so while not totally shocking, it still was.

Leonard Nimoy Grampa Tweet

Our adopted grandfather. The voice and energy that brought Spock to life for all of us Star Trek fans, had left this plane of existence.

I told my husband. He was quiet. He always goes inward that way to absorb bad news.

I went to start making brunch and the kids came down and he told our daughter. I wasn't in the room.

When I came back in she was being cranky and argumentative with TMO and I wondered what was up.

I soon realized this behavior was her Aspie way of dealing with being upset that Leonard Nimoy died. We sat on the bed and I cuddled her for a minute and asked her what was wrong. She said she didn't know. So, I asked her if she was upset about it

She shrugged.

"I guess", She said in that "Yes I am, but I'm annoyed you know it!" defensive tone teenagers have.

I hugged her and told her it was ok to be upset about it. We all were.

Then I pulled up twitter on my phone and showed her how many people were upset by it and how much he meant to so many people. I went to facebook and showed her my timeline, and a nerdfighter group I'm on that had HUNDREDS of comments of being sad about it, and all the changed profile pictures to Star Trek and Spock pictures.

It seemed to allow her the permission to feel her feelings and she turned to her drawing as comfort as she always has.

She tried to draw the Vulcan hand greeting but got annoyed that she's not good at hands yet ( and so, won't let me share it here :) ) and vowed to get better at that soon. We took a few minutes to talk about drawing hands, and it brought her out of that repetitive cycle she can get in when she is upset. She adjusted herself easily after that and was less defensive and argumentative.

Soon after, she, my son and TMO got on StarTrek Online and played all day.

Everyone in the game had gone to the Vulcan home world and was just kinda hanging out there in character in the game that Nimoy contributed to, to give voice to Spock for missions. Grieving in their own ways. Honoring the man who played Spock.


I took to Twitter and Instagram to give voice to my sadness.


Leonard Nimoy was a Hero to Many

I don't know if he was ever even aware of just how much his portrayal of a logical character like Spock touched children with high functioning autism...but Leonard Nimoy was a role model in his role as Spock for them. I've talked to so many families with ASD kids who have that in common with us.

My daughter lost a hero on friday

Gene Roddenberry could not have known when he made his imaginations a story to share with the world that he would touch this many people with his characters, for ongoing generations.

But it has.

Star Trek is a story that teaches compassion, about not interfering in another's path in life for our own wants and needs. It has solid values and morals, like loyalty, honor and honesty. As well as selflessness within personal sacrifice to save your friends, and how to be a team player.

To everyone who is NOT a Star Trek fan who ridicules fans for being so hurt by the loss of Leonard Nimoy (yes those tweets are out there) you have no clue of that which you profess to understand and then make fun of.

#RIPLeonardnimoy was not just a trending hashtag one Friday in February for us.

It is a real loss. It will take us time

I know I speak for all Star Trek fans when I say this:

Lenoard Nimoy-You have been, and always will be a hero to us.

You will forever live long and prosper in our hearts because we will never forget you.

How lucky we are to have a collection of your greatest role as an actor, to watch whenever we want, as comfort to us in our very emotional time of grief!

Friday night we watched the Star Trek reboot movie with Nimoy as Ambassador Spock...it was the only logical thing we could do.


The family that StarTrek cosplay's together stays together. One of the exhibitors at fanexpo asked to take our picture as a family because she loved that all four of us dressed up and we were all star trek. T'm glad she took our pic cause it is the only pic I have of all 4 of us together from there.

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